Ok, perhaps you felt constantly drained of being around other people and finally discovered that you’re an empath. Now you’re not sure whether you should be relieved or angry because, let’s face it, managing hypersensitivity can be a challenging task.
Even if it may not always feel like it, being an empath comes with many gifts if you learn how to harness this energy to your benefit. Gifts such as strong intuition and the capacity to read other people, amongst many others.
The process of learning how to manage your sensitivity and reclaiming your power is a journey to becoming an empowered empath.
17 Lessons on a Journey to Empowered Empath
Here are some observations that I made on my own journey of embodying empowered empath:
(It’s a work in progress, and that’s totally fine.)
1. You don’t help others by feeling sorry for them
In order to help others, you need to see them how they would like to be (in a better light – f.e. happy and healthy).
You hold the space and higher vibration so that you give them an opportunity to match that frequency instead of you meeting them at their frequency. Empowered empath understands that you don’t need to lower your vibration to relate to somebody else’s pain.
2. Selfcare isn’t selfish
Empaths often shoulder other people’s burdens and rarely ask for help. This can result in feeling depleted. Empowered empath knows that self-care isn’t selfish. In fact, it’s necessary.
This will sound cliche, but yes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. The inner alignment and grounding come first. The service comes after.
3. Emotions are not your enemy
They are valuable sources of information about what’s going on within. Feel the emotions but don’t let them consume you. Observe them. Allow them. Release them.
4. There is a big difference between being ‘nice’ and being ‘loving’
Suppressing yourself and your feelings to avoid conflict or to protect others usually leads to resentment. It is not loving. It’s an avoidance strategy based on fear of the consequences. Instead of ignoring conflict or taking all the blame on yourself, aim towards resolving it.
Managing conflict can be uncomfortable, especially for empaths, as they are very attuned to the energy and emotions of others.
However, conflict can be a great indicator of your blind spots. It can help you to understand yourself more as well as others. If it’s handled in a mature way, it can bring people closer instead of creating a divide.
5. Everyone has blind spots
When you have a strong aversion or judgment towards someone or something, it is usually an indicator of some part that you disowned in yourself.
6. Perception of reality is filtered through your beliefs
There is a difference between the situation and your interpretation of it. In other words, there is a difference between what happens and what meaning you assign to the situation.
Developing the ability to discern between the interpretation of the experience from what’s really happening in the present moment can significantly reduce emotional pain.
Our interpretation of the situation can be distorted based on our past experiences or beliefs about how it should be.
7. Your triggers are reflections of your wounds and insecurities
If you get triggered/defensive about somebody criticizing you, it’s most likely because there is a part within you that is insecure; they might be right.
8. Nobody can take your personal power away
Nobody can take your personal power away or affect you negatively unless you allow them to do so on some level.
This can happen consciously or unconsciously – for example, by internalizing their intention or by matching their vibration. When your electromagnetic (auric) field is strong, you don’t really need any protection.
9. Emotional freedom is expressing a full spectrum of emotions
Emotional freedom is not about stuffing your emotions or controlling them, it’s really about feeling all spectrum of your emotions fully, learning from them, and appreciating the message they carry within. Integrating them. If we feel something, then there is a valid reason for it. Self-control is more related to managing our reactions.
10. You can transmute the energy
It’s not what happens to you, but your response (attitude) to what happens that determines the outcome.
Of course, things can hurt you and cause sorrow. However, even the most difficult circumstances can serve you in some way. They can become your greatest gifts.
By overcoming them, you develop the internal strength, the resilience to handle difficulties and in doing so you inspire others to do the same.
11. It’s not your job to rescue everyone
As empaths feel other people’s emotions and pain, they may want to make sure that everyone’s happy at all costs. This may lead to pleasing others at their own detriment or finding themselves in abusive dynamics.
By making excuses for another person’s behavior and rescuing, you can end up enabling dysfunctional patterns.
If you keep doing that, people will never learn the lessons from their mistakes and take responsibility for their lives. Sometimes it can be the most loving thing to others and yourself to leave, say the ‘ugly’ truth or set strong boundaries.
12. Discomfort equals growth
Expansion and growth go hand in hand with a level of discomfort. Tension can serve you as a fuel for creativity and something new to emerge. Tension is not always negative.
Wanting to get rid of it at all costs can become a limitation to fully embracing your empowered empath.
13. Boundaries are vital
Boundaries and Assertiveness go hand in hand. Assertive communication is calm; it has nothing to do with aggression. To become an empowered empath, it’s vital to learn how to set healthy boundaries and express them freely.
You can check my freebies section, where I share the boundaries worksheet.
14. Anger is an expression of powerlessness
You get angry when the reality isn’t how you want it, and you feel powerless to change it. Depression is an expression of feeling long-term powerlessness.
15. Life on Earth wasn’t meant to be perfect
If everything was perfect, then we couldn’t exercise our free will – our ability to choose and discern.
16. You belong here (even if you don’t feel like it)
If you don’t feel like you belong here, it’s maybe because you’re supposed to help create a better world.
Many empaths may not feel a sense of belonging, as if they don’t fit in or as if Earth isn’t their true home. If you’re here, then you’ve chosen that for some reason.
One of those reasons may be to help create a new world. If you constantly want to escape your body or life, you may miss out on a great and unique experience that being in human form brings about.
17. Don’t just give your trust, let another person earn it
Wanting to see only the good in people is a noble pursuit. However, we all have the capacity to be good and bad. We all have been a perpetrator or a victim at some point in our lives. Therefore, don’t just give your trust, let another person earn it.