1. You don’t help others by feeling sorry for them. In order to help others, you need to see them how they would like to be (in a better light – f.e. happy and healthy). You hold the space and higher vibration so that you give them an opportunity to match that frequency instead of you meeting them at their frequency. You don’t need to lower your vibration in order to relate to somebody else’s pain.
2. Empaths often shoulder other people’s burdens and rarely ask for help. This can result in feeling depleted. Selfcare isn’t selfish. This will sound like a cliche but yes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. The inner alignment and grounding come first. The service comes after.
3. Emotions are not your enemy. They are valuable sources of information about what’s going on within. Feel the emotions but don’t let them consume you. Observe them. Allow them. Release them.
4. There is a big difference between being ‘nice’ and being ‘loving’. Suppressing yourself and your feelings to avoid conflict or to protect others usually leads to resentment. It is not loving. It’s an avoidance strategy based on fear of the consequences. Instead of ignoring conflict or taking all the blame on yourself, aim towards resolving it. Managing conflict can be uncomfortable especially for empaths as they are very attuned to the energy and emotions of others. However, conflict can be a great indicator of your blind spots. It can help you to understand yourself more as well as the others. If it’s handled in a mature way, it can bring people closer instead of creating a divide.
5. When you have a strong aversion or judgment towards someone or something, it is usually an indicator of some part that you disowned in yourself.
6. There is a difference between the situation and your interpretation of it. In other words, there is a difference between what happens and what meaning you assign to the situation. Developing the ability to discern between the interpretation of the experience from what’s really happening in the present moment can significantly reduce the emotional pain. Our interpretation of the situation can be distorted based on our past experiences or beliefs about how it should be.
7. If you get triggered/defensive about somebody criticizing you, it’s most likely because there is a part within you that is insecure they might be right.
8. Nobody can take your personal power away or affect you negatively unless you allow them to do so on some level. This can happen consciously or unconsciously – for example by internalizing their intention or by matching their vibration. When your electromagnetic (auric) field is strong, you don’t really need any protection.
9. Emotional freedom is not about stuffing your emotions or controlling them, it’s really about feeling all spectrum of your emotions fully, learning from them, and appreciating the message they carry within. Integrating them. If we feel something, then there is a valid reason for it. Self-control is more related to managing our reactions.
10. It’s not what happens to you, but your response (attitude) to what happens to you that determines the outcome. Of course, things can hurt you and cause sorrow. However, even the most difficult circumstances can serve you in some way. They can become your greatest gifts. By overcoming them, you develop the internal strength, the resilience to handle difficulties and in doing so you inspire others to do the same.
11. As empaths feel other people’s emotions and pain, they may want to make sure that everyone’s happy at all costs. This may lead to pleasing others at their own detriment or finding themselves in abusive dynamics. By making excuses for another person’s behaviour and rescuing, you can end up enabling dysfunctional patterns. If you keep doing that, people will never learn the lessons from their mistakes and take responsibility for their lives. Sometimes it can be the most loving thing to others and yourself to leave, say the ‘ugly’ truth or set strong boundaries.
12. Expansion and growth go hand in hand with a level of discomfort. Tension can serve you as a fuel for creativity and something new to emerge. Tension is not always negative. Wanting to get rid of it at all costs can become a limitation to fully embracing your personal power.
13. Assertiveness is calm. It has nothing to do with aggression.
14. Anger is an expression of powerlessness. You get angry when the reality isn’t the way you want it and you feel powerless to change it. Depression is an expression of feeling long term powerlessness.
15. Life on Earth wasn’t meant to be perfect. If everything was perfect, then we couldn’t exercise our free will – our ability to choose and discern.
16. Many empaths may not feel a sense of belonging, as if they don’t fit in or as if Earth isn’t their true home. If you’re here, then you’ve chosen that for some reason. One of those reasons may be to help create a new world. If you constantly want to escape your body or life, you may miss out on a great and unique experience that being in human form brings about.
17. Wanting to see only the good in people is a noble pursuit. However, we all have the capacity to be good and bad. We all have been a perpetrator or the victim at some point in our lives. Don’t just give your trust, let another person earn it.